Monday, January 18, 2010

She gives meaning to the word warrior...

…but she’d try to tell you otherwise. She’s been fighting the battle of her life for years, but until recently you would have never known. She’s beautiful, strong, fierce, determined, courageous, extraordinarily stubborn and epitomizes brave to the highest degree.



Her name is Suzanne and she is my mother. Suzanne’s life has been filled with many blessings which include Ray - her husband and caring companion, four beautiful, healthy children – Lauren (me), Christopher, Becky (a junior in high school) and Ashley (in 8th grade), a very helpful son-in-law Cris and three sweet grandchildren. Suzanne has seven siblings and is the daughter of my incredible grandmother Blanche, who also deserves a blog devoted to the journey of her life (maybe that will be my next endeavor!).

Here are some pictures of our Suzanne (Susie) Kuykendall in her younger years--


What a cute little girl!







and after having Lauren...





the very large Kuykendall family


and with Lauren and Christopher...






While Suzanne’s journey through life has been filled with many blessings, she has also been forced to contend with cancer on multiple occasions. The first encounter occurred in 1992 when she was diagnosed with breast cancer. Suzanne fought through her diagnosis and treatment with valiancy and grace; she endured the horrible (and I mean HORRIBLE) side-effects of chemotherapy while raising three young children and working full-time. She did not show weakness. She did not waver. She did what she had to do and pulled through.



Momma Susie in the middle of breast cancer treatment after having my little sister Becky...
she looks amazing as usual!




Suzanne then spent several years cancer-free! Here are some of those highlights...


with her sweet little Ashley



Susie and Ray




with her best friend Norma
(who by the way has given a whole new meaning to the title "best friend")



A Spring Break trip to Colorado...Christopher and Mom



Mother and Daughter.... or Sisters?
Nothing like having a mom that looks 20 years younger than her actual age!






with her girls... and Elvis



with her sisters Sylvia and Priscilla, her mother Blanche and her aunts Gloria and Jessie


2006 was the year when things took a turn. In March of that year, Suzanne was diagnosed with Stage 3 ovarian cancer. The first course of action following this diagnosis was a major surgery which meant a complete hysterectomy, bowel resection and removal of cancer throughout her abdomen. She spent two long and grueling weeks in the hospital recovering from that surgery (hard for anyone, but especially hard for someone ready to go home on day 4). Following this surgery, Suzanne braved six months of chemotherapy while working full-time. For a few wonderful months following this treatment she remained cancer-free. Unfortunately though, that ugly cancer came back in her abdominal area and for the last two and a half years she has faced countless rounds of chemo and another major surgery to remove a large mass from her colon in early 2009 – all while raising her girls and still working full-time… I told you she was a warrior!

Some memories from 2006-2008:


arrival of grandson Benjamin in May 2006



Ashley's First Communion in 2007




Ben's 2nd Birthday party in May 2008



beautiful granddaugther Chloe's Dance Recital in 2008



with her newest granddaughter Madeline in September 2008





the annual trip to Chandler House nursing home to sing Christmas carols in 2008
(hands down, she's the best singer there every year :) )




Christmas 2008

And a few from 2009:



Becky's Confirmation







San Francisco in September






and Christmas

As of December 2009, we finally convinced my mom to stop working to focus completely on her health. She had just completed an unsuccessful round of experimental treatment at UT’s Cancer Treatment and Research Center and the pain and discomfort (misery really) was taking its toll.

Suzanne went back to her regular oncologist, Dr. Fred Massey, for further assessment and treatment. He put her back on chemotherapy with a drug that she had not previously used. After a month of receiving chemo weekly, word last week was a little discouraging - the drug is not working. Her CA 125 levels (a blood test that determines the level of cancer cells in your body) had gone from 1,700 to 2,180 in three weeks (normal is 0 – 35).


Last Thursday Suzanne received another round of chemo with a different drug and we’re all praying that this one works. You can imagine this journey has been arduous beyond measure and even though she still finds a way to smile and make us all laugh, we know that she’s going through more than what words can express.

I have started this blog as a journal to document my mother’s journey through the toughest days we’ve seen yet. Many of you reading have shown your genuine and incessant care and concern for her and so through this I hope to keep everyone better informed.

Additionally, so many of you ask how you can help. If you’ve ever had a loved one with cancer, you know that the ups and downs of this journey create challenges you’ve never imagined. There are just so many. For those of you that want to help, I will be doing my best to pass on our needs in subsequent postings.


Here’s what I think would be helpful right now: encouraging words, positive stories and most importantly - prayer. Scripture, quotes and stories of individuals who have overcome tremendous odds are all welcome here. Just leave them in the comments section or reply to strengthforsuzanne@gmail.com if you don’t want your post to be made public. My mom will be reading and contributing to this frequently so I want her to see, know and feel nothing but overwhelming energy and encouragement.



Thank you for reading! More to come soon….


Love,
Lauren


14 comments:

Lauren and Cris said...

We love you momma!! You are such an incredible woman!!!

Hardy Knucks said...

You know and I know that everyone is pulling for you. We are constantly banging on heaven's door expecting a miracle. And, the miracle is that, yes, you are still with us. I have enjoyed the last 53 years getting to know you and look forward to, at least, 53 more. Of course that would make you about 110. But since Geminis like us always stay so young looking, you wouldn't look any older than Lauren.

I love you bunches.

Jeff said...

My loving sister, ALL WAYS THE FIGHTER, you are an inspiration to all who endure the bad or poor situations of life. If I ever feel down about my position in life, I just reflect on your battles and hardships and realize I have nothing by comparisons to even feel sad about and I continue to go on. I rarely pray for anything, but I do pray for you and think of you often even if we don't communicate about it. Lauren, you have done a beautiful job of sharing your mom's happy and difficult times in her journey in life trail. love you both. Jeff.

Hardy Knucks said...

Oh, no! I was driving to Trader Joe's and I realized that I had made a critical math error. In another 53 years, you'll only be 108, not 110. The good news is that now you'll look younger than Lauren. I enjoyed our conversation, yesterday, and look forward to many more. I thank God daily that you are with us.

May your days be filled with love, light, and peace.

Unknown said...

Suzanne - not a day goes by without someone mentioning your name. We miss you and hope that our prayers will help lift you up. Keep on fighting!

Faubush Family said...

We love you Suzanne. Your strength and endurance is inspiring. We pray for your continued battle with cancer.
Keep fighting!

Unknown said...

Lauren,

This is a wonderful idea, I loved all the pics of your mom & family! Wishing her strength! I am truly amazed of your mom's fighting spirt and endurance! I know she is surrounded with love!

- Love Laura

Sarah Brindle said...

Casting the whole of your care [all your anxieties, all your worries, all your concerns, once and for all] on Him, for He cares for you affectionately and cares about you watchfully. 1 Peter 5: 7


Have faith and Stay strong! I too will have faith for you!

Hardy said...

Susie-
Thank you for staying strong and staying with us. We pray for your healing at Mass, every Sunday, and I have added your intentions to our Dominical Digest. Also, a mega-huge thank you to Lauren for this wonderful blog. It is a great way to stay in touch. I love you lots.

ray rodriguez said...

this is probably the best collection of photos of suze i have ever seen. we have all of these at the house but the way they are presented here somehow makes them seem like they are telling a story. i forget that suze had a whole other life before she met me, and sometimes jealous of all the great times that i was not there to be part of. but i would not trade one min of what we have shared good and bad. without her and the girls i would be a bum. she loved me when i was poor and skinny and she loves me now when i'ma lot less poor and a lot less skinny . love ya babe-

Sarah Brindle said...

I was so delighted to hear the wonderful news! All I can say is...Thank you Lord! May all the glory be his!! He is our refuge in a time of need. Thanks Lauren for keeping us updated. Great job on this blog. Suzanne, I'm still praying for you. We miss
you!

Anonymous said...

wow what great writing.JUST wanted to let you know i PRAY for you and your FAMILY often LOVE from FT.RILEY

Anonymous said...

I remember we use to exchange punches on a regular basis when we were kids. You were always the victor, so I know you are a fighter!

I will be putting the word out to all my prayer warriors. Stay strong!

Love ya Tutu. (As Shan would call you)

Big Sister said...

My Dearest, Beautiful Sister, There are no words to describe my broken spirit with the passing of your passionate soul. Our lives will never be the same. It is a part of our journey on live which I never wanted to experience. All your brothers and sisters were truly blessed to have you in our lives. We were bonded by blood , but it is our love that keeps us together forever in our hearts. You are such an inspiration , with your strength, love , laughter, generosity , compassion , I really could go on forever. Although your life here on earth was all too brief, you managed to make it a great one. It really shows in your wonderful family you created, Ray, Lauren, Chris, Rebecca and Ashley. You have done a tremendous job, and have touch many souls in your journey here. Susie, you fought a courageous battle and I prayed and prayed that God would allow you to remain in our lives for a while longer. But I guess He saw that He needed you in heaven with Him. So with that, I can allow you to go and know that you are at peace and happy and that I have my little sister angel in heaven to watch our me. I will love you forever, Sylvia